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Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Adult children bulling their parents

There have been some horrible stories on the web and TV about children being bullied and the resulting effects of those actions. Well, it doesn’t matter if you are young or old bullying can affect anyone. You can always find someone who has been touched by cruelty.

This is not a blog looking for judgment or criticism, it’s for people that have been hurt, touched and harmed by their adult children’s abuse.

Unless you are the target (for whatever reason, gender, age, size, etc.), you can’t possibly understand what a scar on your soul it is to be ridiculed and bullied. We are all born with love in our hearts, but some people forget this and strike out at others because of their own unhappiness. When mom use to say, “It’s hard to hit a moving target” I use to look at her as if she were nuts that is until I had my daughter. Then you realize the target is you and when the hit comes it can last a lifetime. I found when there was a quiet time of no communication that melancholia would set in and I would start thinking of her when she was a child and innocent...then the hit, boom, the familiar hurt came back.

When I started to write this blog, my intention was to write about Adult children bullying their parents. However, overtime, thinking and writing I came to realize that I have been a target of bullies in one-way or another all my life and still am. Moms also use to say to me, “Honey, you must have fallen off the turnip truck”. She said that because I never thought bad about anyone and trusted everyone.

Whether you are young or old, if you are being bullied you must talk to someone about it. However, sometimes talking to your friends or family for a longtime with nothing changing, people get bored with you and don’t want to hear about it anymore. At times like this, you need to find someone with no attachment to you or your attacker.

After deciding to write this blog I realized I have been bumping against one bully after another all my life. Please don’t let this happen to you.

This is about 'Change'. Is it possible? How it happens? What’s next?

"Your life is what you think about yourself, not what others think of you".

While writing and re-reading this blog it has made me realize I have never stood my ground against problems, bullies and the like. This is something I still have to work on. You can call me crazy, but I still have hope that someday she will find happiness and peace. At least enough to perhaps not tell me she hates me.

Remember, a bully is an unhappy person looking for a victim to punish.

Don’t let them bully you, even if they’re family. Sometimes you just have to close the door. That is what I have forced myself to do. Yes, at times as I said before, I slip and feel love for her, but then the call or e-mail comes and I go back to this blog and realize I need to close the door once again for protection.

Please feel free to share your story and perhaps we can all offer insight to each other and bring a little peace into our lives.